Japan may come off as a repressive, depressing society where people live sorry, unhappy lives well into their 90s. OK, we might seem that way to the outsider, but in actual fact Japan has consistently been liberal and permissive in certain areas.

Take homosexuality. Shibuya-ku (œi¹ÈÇø, Shibuya Ward) and Setagaya-ku (ÊÀÌï¹ÈÇø, Setagaya Ward) have made it possible for same-sex partners to enjoy the same kazoku (¼Ò×å, family) benefits as conventional married couples within their wards, but according to my gay friend Kohei: ¡°We¡¯ve always enjoyed plenty of freedom and sympathy. It¡¯s single mothers, working women and abused children that need protection.¡±

Kohei has a point. He and his boyfriend have lived in the equivalent of matrimonial bliss for the past decade, with the full support of their large circle of friends. They have more or less cut off ties with their aging parents, who expressed ikari (Å­¤ê, anger) and fukai shitsub¨­ (ÉʧÍû, deep disappointment) at their union, but Kohei says this has exonerated them both from the hassles of kaigo (½é×o, helping and caring) for parents later on.